Obstacles in Building Self-Confidence
Know what’s holding you back.
It’s great that you have decided
to build your self-confidence. However, there are a few obstacles that can keep
you from achieving your goal. Most of the time, these obstacles are so obvious
that they do not seem like obstacles at all, and all you can see is that your
resolve to be self-confident is not taking you anywhere. Therefore, it is
important to become aware of these seemingly harmless obstacles that have all
the power to stop you in your path. Let’s have a look at what could be the
reasons that you are not moving ahead in top gear.
Are you undisciplined?
Some people simply have the
talent to waste a lot of time without realizing it. They lack the
self-discipline to stop their actions that waste time. Imagine a situation
wherein you have a list of tasks to be completed successful as a part of your
confidence building program. However, the moment you enter your home you
involuntarily grab the remote and start channel surfing on the idiot box. It’s
only after an hour that you realize that you have been vegetating in front of
the T.V in the time you had scheduled to do other tasks. You realize that you
have already disturbed your schedule. In a self-development program, it’s you and
only you who has the power to change yourself. Nobody will come to monitor your
actions and progress. You have to keep a watch on your inner graph and see to
it that it goes up! Avoid temptations and stick to your schedule.
Are you lazy and keep procrastinating?
Procrastination is one of the
greatest and most silent killers of confidence. It does not let you complete
your jobs and tasks in time; things keep mounting and finally you get
overwhelmed by all the many things that have piled up and need your attention.
The very basics of building confidence start with listing little things that
are doable. You gain more confidence to take on greater tasks and
responsibilities by successfully completing the lighter tasks at hand. However not
being prompt and delaying important things till they become urgent makes you
miss the opportunity of working on your confidence and puts you in danger of
falling back again into your earlier cycle, thereby wasting all the effort and
energy you had put in to becoming aware of your low confidence trap and getting
out of it.
Does your old self keep pulling you back?
Assume. Assume. Assume is the
technique here. Assume that you are a different person with habits you wanted
to inculcate. Imagine the way you would like to be. Imagine a self-confident
you taking things in your stride. Then try to bring into your daily actions the
way you have imagined yourself to be. “I dream by painting. Then I paint my
dream” was the technique what the great painter Vincent Van Gogh followed. Your
assumed self will make people react to you in a different way, according to
your new self. This will establish your new self to the world and will help you
keep up the new self before it becomes a habit – a second nature! If you behave
indecisively and helplessly, you will invoke proportionate reactions from
people around you, thereby reinforcing your previous self. This throws you back
again. Remember that you cannot get ahead if you keep looking back. Realize
this and stop sliding back.
Don’t copy self-confidence. Do not try to become
like someone else.
One of the greatest mistakes that
people make when trying to increase their low self-confidence is falling in
love with an image of their icon who may be a sport star or a film star or any
celebrity and then they try to be like them. This is one of the greatest
mistakes that people can commit when trying in increase their self-confidence.
You have to be yourself at all costs. Getting inspired is wonderful but merely
aping these guys won’t take you anywhere. There is no need for any two people
in this universe to be exactly the same. The challenge is to be yourself in a
world that is trying to make you like everyone else!
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